Hello my name is Kim and I am a recovering people pleaser. Any else suffer from this disease?
I know I am not the only people pleaser because so many of my clients complain of never having time for themselves, they are too busy taking care of everyone and everything that there is no time for them. So many of us were raised to think self-sacrifice is loving, makes you a caring kind person. When we are stuck in people pleasing we often get to a point of feeling taken advantage of. When we get to this place we snap… we get passive aggressive, angry, shut down, withdraw or emotional eat… or all these things! Society tell us putting self-last, sacrificing self and being a martyr is loving. We are told that saying no, self-care and boundaries are selfish and if you do this you are a self-centered or a “bitch.” When we come from love saying no and setting healthy boundaries is healthy. It can feel so unnatural at first to set boundaries for ourselves, but I assure you when you find your voice and learn how to set healthy boundaries you will LOVE having more time for yourself!